The fourth thing to know about divorce is that it is at once an emotional journey, and a legal process, and that it is best to keep these two aspects of divorce separate when that is possible.
Marriage is a legal contract recognized by the state conferring rights, privileges and responsibilities.
You can feel like the loneliest person in the world when you are contemplating divorce.
It's therefore important to keep divorce in perspective so that it doesn't crush you: Divorce is common The first thing to know about divorce is that it is common and nothing to be ashamed of.
Arbitration is available to help partners successfully divide their possessions without recourse to the courts.
The quality of the divorce any given couple will end up experiencing will be deeply influenced by the quality of relationships the partners can maintain with each other, and with professional helpers they work with during the separation process.Since the 1960s most states have adopted "no-fault" divorce laws that allow couples to divorce without proving wrongdoing.Due in part to this reform and probably to other cultural changes, the divorce rate has risen, and being divorced is no longer looked down upon.But modern divorce can also take place amicably, consciously and without a court battle.Marriage therapy can help conflicted partners to repair their marriage, or, if that is not possible, to separate on as positive terms as is possible.Partners are now free to proceed with divorce as calmly and rationally as they can manage.Certainly divorce is frequently born out of marital conflict and proceeds as a knockdown, drag-out fight for possessions, child custody and pride.In the midst of the divorce crisis are seeds of opportunities for remaking life into something again enjoyable new and creatively good.It is important to keep this hopeful and true message in mind as the process unfolds.Divorce is a crisis involving a very real end, but it is also a very real new beginning.Divorce is the end of a chapter of life, but not the end of life itself (even though it may feel that way).